Is awesome sex physical or emotional?
“SEX IS SEX” I know you’ve heard people say this just as I have. But as a romance writer I think about this a lot. How good is just physical sex without ROMANCE?
Physical sex has, groping, pounding, thrusting and then a release of tension – what’s that take, all of two minutes? Well, I don’t know about you girls, but in my opinion that can’t be great sex…in that amount of time your brain can’t even begin to get warmed up.
The mind needs sex too, doesn’t it? And how does our mind get sex? Through romance, that’s how! Think about it, isn’t that the first place sex starts…in the mind? So how can there be great physical sex without romance?
Romance comes with the first scintillating glance that connects with the handsome six foot six man from across the room. Your breath catches in your throat at the first sign of his confident nature; unlike the beer belly guy at the end of the bar, this virile, wide shouldered man doesn’t yell for the bartender’s attention, he waits, catches his eye, then gives a quick jut of his strong chin. Your first flash of body heat rises when he glances over again and smirks just as he looks away. Its sexy how he sits there for a moment before slowly turning, drink in hand, and makes his way over to you as if you’re the only woman in the room. Romance makes your nose seek for his seductive scent the moment he slides his warm body into the booth next to you and makes sure his shoulder presses against yours. Your first flush warms your face at the provocative sweep the very tip of his tongue makes across his sculptured lips before his rakish nature dares to ask if you want him as badly as he wants you. Your blood races at his first question and you know he knows the answer already, he need not have asked. The first quiver of your heart flutters when a touch of his fingers brushes against your flesh as you hand him your business card with your private number on the back. This is romance. This is sex.
The physical act of hot thrusting and straddling legs around a sensational lover can’t work without romance. You need to FEEL that very first emotion of attraction to make sex awesome sex. SEX just can’t be SEX. It has to be sex you can’t forget. Sex you can’t wait to have again.
Now I know you’re going to say – all that succulent first time sex is great but after 22 years of marriage that FIRST emotional response wanes...I say; only if you let it. That’s why good sex can’t just be physical. Good sex has to be joined with the emotions of the mind. Good sex is connected with all the five senses and memories that will keep sex as heated or hotter then that very first time.
So, tell me…sex, what is it to you and when does sex really start – with a thrust or a glance from passionate Caribbean blue eyes?
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