This week’s blog starts off with a Thank You to
Dottie She has honored me with The Proximidade Award. This wonderful award is given for friendship cyber or otherwise. As Dottie said, This blog invests and believes in the Proximity - nearness in space, time and relationships. These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement! Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers!
Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this clever-written text into the body of their award."
Oh my gosh, there are so many I want to give this award too, but I can only give this to eight?
I offer this award to:
Lea From day one we connected as friends and I don’t care that you live so far away. I adore you with all my heart!
Judi Fennell Sometimes the Gods just put people in our path and that’s how I found you. Judi is the sweetest woman and I call her a dear friend.
C.L. Wilson Cheryl, you’re a young woman but an old friend. I don’t get to spend as much time with you as I’d like but you know where my heart is, darlin’.
KimberlyLlewellyn Sweetie, you’re a new friend but I feel as if I’ve known you forever!
Liza You’re a sweetheart!
Romance Bandits Yap, I adore each and every one of you girls! It’s a special cyber friendship I cherish.
Sia McKye Again, a cyber friendship that has become so dear to my heart. Sia, you’re such a wonderful woman. xoxo
Julie Leto Another friend I don’t get to spend a lot of time with…but a friendship I hold dear. Julie, you know I think you’re awesome! I love your honor and loyalty it’s what bonds us as friends. ;-)
Now, as usual I’m not done because eight is not enough! So, I’m giving out three more HONORARY AWARDS as well.
Vicki Lane Girl! I can’t forget you! It was the birds of a feather that brought us together and bonded us as friends. You’re a sweetie and everyone knows it! Hugs.
Rocki You’ve been a dear friend since the start of my adventure in the writing world. I’ve always adored you – you know that!
AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST –
Dottie What goes around comes around my friend! You’re such a sweetheart!
O.K., everyone, Dottie’s to blame for this weeks blog! ;-)
WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP?
What constitutes as a friend in your mind?
Is it someone who calls you everyday to see if you’re alright? Or is it that one person you go to whenever you need a true friend to tell you like it is, but you don’t spend a lot of time with?
Can a stranger in a crowd, who steps up to protect you from a bad person, be a friend? A stranger who bonds with you in just that moment of time, but you never see again, yet you can’t forget the kind act of true friendship he showed?
What makes a friend? Is it loyalty? Honor? Caring and sharing? Or just someone who listens to your problems? Is it something in common that binds you?
What if you know someone who doesn’t share private information about themselves – are they a friend? Do you have to spill the beans about your life to be a friend?
What forms the bonds of friendship?
How do you know when it’s real or just a friendship of convenience?
It’s hard to know when you’re being a good friend or a bad friend…everyone’s expectations of a friend seems to be so different. But is it really?
I have very few rules for making friends BUT the few I have are not easy ones. To me a friend is a friend forever as long as HONOR is always the top priority. Honor (your word) means everything to me. I can live with any faults you have as my friend, as long as I know your word is good.
I can talk with my friends every day or not talk for years and when we do talk, it’s as if we spoke yesterday. My feelings don’t change because of distance or how often we speak. A true heart is a true heart…time plays no roll in relationships, nor does space.
To me a friend is the one person I don’t have to make excuses to about things. I’ve heard girls talk about their “Best Friend” and in the same breath say, “Well, I’ll have to tell a little white lie to Mary…she’s my best friend but she’ll be so hurt if I don’t come, but I’m just not up to it tonight.” To me this is sad, and Mary isn’t much of a friend if she makes you feel like you have to lie!
If Mary was a good friend, a true friend she will be disappointed that you, her best friend, wasn’t able to come to her party, BUT as a friend she should understand and know…as her best friend, you’d do everything in your power to go. You’re BEST FRIENDS for Pete’s sake, but if you’re not up to it, you’re not up to it. A true friend would understand this.
In my friendships, I don’t want my friends to feel like they have to lie to me about anything. I don’t want my friends thinking I would judge them either. I’m a firm believer in “Until I walk in your shoes” I can’t judge you. AND if I did walk in your shoes…I’d do exactly what you did…because I’m in your shoes - walking in your life - so my beliefs and experiences would be your beliefs and experiences - so I couldn’t do anything BUT walk the path you chose. SO – HOW COULD I STAND IN JUDGEMENT?
I expect the same respect from my friends towards me. Leave the judging of others to the Gods…that’s their job, not man’s.
I want my friends to know…my friendship offers no pressure. I accept you as you are. I’ll adore all the good in you and accept the bad in you as well. We’re human’s…we’re not perfect. I might not like or even agree with the bad I see, but I won’t judge you for it. You have your reasons…be they right or wrong, and I have to respect that.
If you ask me to help you change - I’ll do my best to help you overcome the negative – if this change is YOUR DESIRE….that’s what friends do…BUT only when asked.
I believe a person will change when THEY are ready and not before. And I know when they are ready for a change in their lives – The Gods will send them the teacher. If the Gods choose me to be that teacher, then and only then will I teach.
A friend is someone who allows me the freedom to be myself. A friend you never have to FAKE anything with. They don’t talk behind your back or stab you in the back. As a friend, if I promise to keep your secret…I will HONOR my words forever…the secret was told during the friendship and even if that friendship has ended, I will honor the promises made during that relationship. And I expect that from my friends old and new, in friendship or ex-friendships. HONOR.
But that’s just me.
So, how about you? What do you expect from a friend and the friendship?
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