I love this term “Damaged” a writer friend of mine (Scott) used it to describe his hero, but what does it mean? What got broken? Can it be fixed? When a person is damaged can they be glued back together like broken china? Or does it mean they are forever cracked, left to live their lives as damaged souls?
Well, I’ve been thinking about that of late. Sadly, I’ve met too many of them, both men and women; each being hurt by the opposite sex. Each having given up on finding a life filled with the love and happiness that comes from the yen and yang of our existence; our true purpose for being here.
What makes a person “Damaged”?
I’ve met both men and women who have honorably given their lives in war to fight for your freedom and mine. They returned as heroes in my eyes because they came back…but they returned “Damaged” from the horrors of war. Instead of being understanding and showing our appreciation, this damage that was a fracture, now cracks, and all because of those who objected to the war decided to take it out on the soldiers who were “ordered” to serve their time. After all, who has time to deal with the unreachable government of ours that sent him? S/he was an easier target…but was that fair to soldier?
S/he now carries the overwhelming emotional baggage of war; rejection and BETRAYAL from those s/he so willingly gave her/his own life for. In a way, s/he is the walking dead, unable to deal with the hurt of it all. S/he is a damaged soul.
Then there are those men and women I’ve met who are damaged by the opposite sex. But alls fair in love and war, right? Is it?
I’ve been watching the Jon and Kate plus eight situation…this man walked away because “he felt like he’d lost himself” after having eight children….OMG, who wouldn’t feel this way? But he’s so self-centered he can’t imagine his wife didn’t feel the same way as well? I’m sure most of you readers out there, that have children, know from personal experience Kate had to have felt the same loss of her self. Yet, she isn’t complaining about her “new” and “difficult” life filled with the eight new responsibilities, that, BTW, she and JON decide to have. It’s not like this was an accident he was unprepared for!!! They went into this knowing their chances, and the changes this pregnancy would cause them as individual people and on a personal level.
In my opinion, Jon betrayed the trust of his wife and eight tiny little souls who trusted him to stick it out…he let them all down. He damaged them because of his own selfish. Because his once “fun life” became too demanding of husband and fatherly responsibilities. So, he ran like a coward from his obligations of being a faithful husband and good father to “find himself”.
Well, I can hope the price for his “re-discovery of himself” is worth the emotional “damage” he’s just caused nine innocent souls.
Then the world further damages these nine souls by feeling sorry for “poor” Jon.
Then there are the men and women who have been in their own bad marriages and experienced their own betrayals, heartbreaks, and broken beliefs in human kind. They are so damaged by the hurt and pain they can’t let go of it. They can’t glue the fracture that keeps widening and chipping away at them.
Some do move on and try again, but manage to damage another relationship because they didn’t let go of the pain from the past relationship before moving on to the next and hence they break the fracture; never to trust the opposite sex again. Damaged. Left to just exist, never wanting to try to find that comfort, that wonderful experience of love or the comfort in living life in a wonderful relationship.
Sad part is, when adults refuse to let go of the pain of a bad relationship or betrayal of a friend, or the treachery of a family member that has caused them pain. They haven’t dealt with their own emotional trauma (because no one showed them how), so they’re left wounded souls who try to raise children, but end up passing on the damage. It’s without intent, but it’s passed on.
We must stop doing this if we are to advance as humans. Each of us have to learn to deal and handle the damage cause to us (whatever and wherever it comes from) and then move on.
Instead of feeding on the negative of that bad experience or relationship, we must find the silver lining within that dark situation and turn it around, making it into a positive experience for us. This is the only way to survive in this life.
By being and see the positive side of things within the negative we can bloom as a soul and pass on the positive part of the experience, letting go of the negative.
To let go; see the negative problem in the palm of your hand, black and dark, swirling around like a ball of bad energy, feel it’s evil, nasty intent, cry, scream or yell whatever you’re feeling while you look at it in your hand. EMOTE. When you’ve felt it’s negativity enough and you can see the silver lining behind that negative force, turn your hand over and see it drop from your hold. LET IT GO, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Stand up, close your eyes and breathe deep. Feel the bright light of the Great Spirit (God) enter the top of your head and feel that wonderful rush of positive energy fill your body. Then take a moment to think how you can make that negative energy work in a positive way in your life. THEN DO IT. DO IT!
KEY WORDS: BE WILLING TO LET GO OF THE NEGATIVE. WE MUST CHOOSE TO BE POSITIVE. IT ISN’T EASY, I KNOW, BUT WE CAN’T CONTINUE TO DO WHAT WE’RE DOING…WE’RE SUBCONCIOUSLY AND WILLINGLY TAKING ON THE ROLE OF THE VICTIM. THE IMAGE OF THE DAMAGED SOUL. MAKE YOUR MIND UP NOT TO BE DAMAGED AND USE YOUR WILL TO BECOME THE TRYUMPHANT HEROES OF LIFE. BECOME THE HERO/INE WHO MANAGED TO OVERCOME ALL OF LIFE’S LESSONS.
Good luck at this weeks challenge, I ask that each of you go one week without allowing one negative word out of your mouth, I ask that you stop all negative thoughts and feelings that you’ve been allowing to control your life. I ask that you remember how you thought as a child and live each day with those innocents and enjoy each day like you did when you were young, before the fracture happened.
Oh, believe me; I will be joining you in this challenge and report back!
P.S. A comment by Jesuree (my Twin) --> Because NICE MATTERS. Blessed Be.
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