Hi everyone, just wanted to say I've been flat on my back for the week...and no, it wasn't a "romantic" flat on my back week in research, :-( wish it had been...it would have been more fun, for sure! LOL
I spent it in pain. I don't know what I did but the back demanded bed rest and that's where I've been...that's why I didn't come see any of you this week. But, I think I'm back and will be getting caught up on things during the week! See Ya' all soon! Hugs and Kisses!
Now for this weeks blog question.
I was raised as a lip smacker. Yap, my family kissed on the lips, a quick smack when saying good-night, a peck joined with a bear hugs said hello, and when my twin and I were very young I remember when we fought, my dad always insisted it ended with a meaningful “I’m sorry” and a little kiss on the smacker to seal the feelings of forgiveness.
Just try it…try letting someone kiss you on the mouth when you really haven’t forgiven them…it can’t happen. With an air kiss, you can fake that forgiveness and hold the grudge to flair up later. Not a good thing…air kisses can be lies.
Oh, and let me not forget Christmas. At Christmas kisses for “the best gifts ever” flowed freely…every gift was the best! These kisses were affection shown in a loving family way…never anything more.
A quick kiss of on the lips was “Normal” in my family, but as I grew I discovered this wasn’t the case in every family. I realized some people are more “reserved” in their affections and a quick smack on the lips was considered TOO sexual, even a sisterly peck was a sin. In their minds it had “other meanings” attached…I feel sorry for people raised like that, they miss out on so much love that can be shared, all because their minds are in a different place when it comes to affection. But that’s a discussion for another blog.
Living overseas exposed me to a lot of different ways and beliefs…In France everyone greets with an air kiss, one on each cheek…just be careful not to bump noses when making the switch.
Now, my friends from Belgium, they were more affectionate … but they didn’t greet their parents like I did mine, and they didn’t do it like the French either. Nope, when they got home they were greeted at the door by their parents almost like a guest and each parent would air kiss their child three times – Yes, 3 times! An air kiss on the right cheek was first then they switch to the left and then return to the right cheek for the last air kiss. This was the standard welcome when greeting or saying good-bye…do you know how many air kisses that is when you’re kissing four people hello or good-bye? Plan on being there for awhile.
Now those from Greece and Italy were more like my Irish family, they were lip kissers…yap, I’d get one big smack on the mouth that was followed with a tight hug. The warmth of welcome was incredible around people like that.
I didn’t find it odd when one man greeted another with a kiss because it was a “friendly greeting kind of kiss” kisses like that NEVER linger…they are pecks like a mother to a daughter or son…they are kisses that say “I’m so happy to see you, or I adore you, or you are welcome here” they were affectionate but never sexual. They were kisses that showed you were part of the family even if you weren’t. Do you know what I’m saying?
Now Japan…well, you never get close enough for a kiss in Japan. They are bower. There I learned the art of the bow. When I lived there back in the 60’s they had defined classes. The rich and the poor. At that time there wasn’t much of a middle class.
If you were among the wealthy anyone below your station in life would bow lower than you. If you wanted to push them for more respect, you could deepen your bow which in turn would force them to bow lower to show they knew their place, and they remained that way until you returned to your standing position first. If they didn’t or they refused to bow lower they were disrespecting you….that wasn’t done….the higher class person had all the power.
So, what about you? How were you raised…to kiss on the lips or turn a cheek? Where you come from, do you air kiss the cheek or give a big smacker on the lips?
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