Sunday, July 5, 2009

ARE YOU A LIP SMACKER OR AN AIR KISSING CHEEK HUGGER?

Hi everyone, just wanted to say I've been flat on my back for the week...and no, it wasn't a "romantic" flat on my back week in research, :-( wish it had been...it would have been more fun, for sure! LOL
I spent it in pain. I don't know what I did but the back demanded bed rest and that's where I've been...that's why I didn't come see any of you this week. But, I think I'm back and will be getting caught up on things during the week! See Ya' all soon! Hugs and Kisses!

Now for this weeks blog question.

I was raised as a lip smacker. Yap, my family kissed on the lips, a quick smack when saying good-night, a peck joined with a bear hugs said hello, and when my twin and I were very young I remember when we fought, my dad always insisted it ended with a meaningful “I’m sorry” and a little kiss on the smacker to seal the feelings of forgiveness.

Just try it…try letting someone kiss you on the mouth when you really haven’t forgiven them…it can’t happen. With an air kiss, you can fake that forgiveness and hold the grudge to flair up later. Not a good thing…air kisses can be lies.
Oh, and let me not forget Christmas. At Christmas kisses for “the best gifts ever” flowed freely…every gift was the best! These kisses were affection shown in a loving family way…never anything more.

A quick kiss of on the lips was “Normal” in my family, but as I grew I discovered this wasn’t the case in every family. I realized some people are more “reserved” in their affections and a quick smack on the lips was considered TOO sexual, even a sisterly peck was a sin. In their minds it had “other meanings” attached…I feel sorry for people raised like that, they miss out on so much love that can be shared, all because their minds are in a different place when it comes to affection. But that’s a discussion for another blog.

Living overseas exposed me to a lot of different ways and beliefs…In France everyone greets with an air kiss, one on each cheek…just be careful not to bump noses when making the switch.

Now, my friends from Belgium, they were more affectionate … but they didn’t greet their parents like I did mine, and they didn’t do it like the French either. Nope, when they got home they were greeted at the door by their parents almost like a guest and each parent would air kiss their child three times – Yes, 3 times! An air kiss on the right cheek was first then they switch to the left and then return to the right cheek for the last air kiss. This was the standard welcome when greeting or saying good-bye…do you know how many air kisses that is when you’re kissing four people hello or good-bye? Plan on being there for awhile.

Now those from Greece and Italy were more like my Irish family, they were lip kissers…yap, I’d get one big smack on the mouth that was followed with a tight hug. The warmth of welcome was incredible around people like that.

I didn’t find it odd when one man greeted another with a kiss because it was a “friendly greeting kind of kiss” kisses like that NEVER linger…they are pecks like a mother to a daughter or son…they are kisses that say “I’m so happy to see you, or I adore you, or you are welcome here” they were affectionate but never sexual. They were kisses that showed you were part of the family even if you weren’t. Do you know what I’m saying?

Now Japan…well, you never get close enough for a kiss in Japan. They are bower. There I learned the art of the bow. When I lived there back in the 60’s they had defined classes. The rich and the poor. At that time there wasn’t much of a middle class.
If you were among the wealthy anyone below your station in life would bow lower than you. If you wanted to push them for more respect, you could deepen your bow which in turn would force them to bow lower to show they knew their place, and they remained that way until you returned to your standing position first. If they didn’t or they refused to bow lower they were disrespecting you….that wasn’t done….the higher class person had all the power.

So, what about you? How were you raised…to kiss on the lips or turn a cheek? Where you come from, do you air kiss the cheek or give a big smacker on the lips?

Hawk

25 comments:

Blodeuedd said...

What, kisses like that, nope I doubt anyone in this country ever would great anyone like that. we are a pretty reserved people, it's the common joke in Europe too.

We aren't even huggers in my family either, I found it very weird that it suddenly all girls started hugging each other hi and goodbye. In the end I am not a hugger, I feel uncomfortable with everyone, except with my bf who I could hug all day

Hugs I cna do, but kisses, nope too sexual, and who wanna go in and kiss anyone here when it's cold and you're covered in clothes

Cecile said...

Now this is quiet a post, Hawk!
I love the story and to read about all the places you have traveled!
It seems that no matter where you go, people are different.
In my family, we are lip smackers and huggers. You greeted everyone with a kiss and a hug. That was just the way it was. You went around the kitchen table and living room (or where ever anyone would be) and kiss and hug them hello. Then when you departed, you did the same thing.

Now, since I grew up that way... that was how I thought everyone was... You can only imagine my surprise when I would meet a family how didn't do that and I would go up to them to kiss and hug them. They were taken back a little, but they got over it.
My hubby's family was like that. There are not big affectioned people. So, when we met them, we hugged and kissed them and you should have saw their faces... now... they know that is expected from my household. My hubby is still "nervous" when my Mom comes over, because she will go to him for a kiss hello and goodbye!
I guess it depends on how you are raised too. Because I was raised in a very affectioned/loving house and that is just what we were taught. Hubby on the other hand was not raised in the most loving/affectioned household... so he does not do that. And it is never viewed as sexual.

Cecile said...

Oh and I am glad to see that you are feeling better! I am sorry to see that your back had other plans for you this past week!
I hope you have a wonderful day!

Liza said...

Glad you are feeling better Hawk. We are big huggers in my family, but not really big kissers. No air kisses for us, but kisses were always on the check followed by a giant bear hug. My family hugs when we first see each other for hellos and for goodbyes. My friends and I are the same way. We could have just seen each other the day before, but we always hug each other hello and goodbye. So I guess you could say I come for a hugging family.

Sha and Michelle said...

I'm from a hugging family...not really when saying hello - but mostly when saying goodbye!

If we haven't seen each other in a long time then sometimes a kiss on the cheek...but usually just hugs.

I've only met my boyfriend's parents once but I think they are way more reserved. They hug each other and their son of course... but when we were saying goodbye they reached to shake my hand. I think they were taken aback when I hugged them! But I've never been a hand-shake kind of person..that makes me feel awkward - especially since I confuse the hand! (I'm a lefty - on the joy!!!) LOL.

Erotic Horizon said...

Hey Hawk..
Glad you are up - if not about, at least you are up...

I was raised a lip smacker - quick smack, loads of hugs and not to be outdone - the arm loads of cuddles...

I ended up having boys and as you know once they reach a certain age, they know the look and they start dodging the lips from an early age... but I am crafty and I get my smacks in...by whatever means necessary.

That said - In the UK political correctness has gone mental - if I am on the bus and ever dare make an attempt at even trying to kiss my niece or nephew - I would not be allowed to pass the next police station.....

So over here - it's all air kissing or very private moments where you are guarded by who is looking and where you are...

But I do grow my kids up to know the joy of what a good smack can bring about -whether it's in peace or in war..... or moment of playfulness, my personal favourite..

E.H>

Treethyme said...

Huggers in my family -- big time. "Family hugs" were a favorite with my kids, something like a football huddle. I got turned off cheek kissing because my grandmother would plant one on your cheek so hard she could leave a bruise! And my husband's family is British -- DEFINITELY not the lip smacking types.

Hope your back is better now!

My Blog 2.0 (Dottie) said...

Hi Hawk!

Sorry to hear about the back problems, no fun there and combine that with the humidity, you've got real problems!

I was raised in a family of hugging kissers. Yep, one wasn't good enough. I still hug and kiss my family hello and goodbye. My husbands family rarely talks to each other, let alone touch each other, which I found so odd, he was affectionate with me, but not with his family. I think he relates it too heavily with sex.

As he has grown older, he really dislikes hugs, but I make him suffer through them anyway. And, he's infecting my children with the same behavior! I raised them to hug and kiss, but his influence is starting to take hold and they're starting to want to only hug! I demand a kiss from each of them, but I can tell it makes them uncomfortable. It makes me sad that his behavior is what they think is appropriate. I want my kisses back.

I think the world could use a few more kisses and I'm more than willing to give them away! It's not sexual for me, but true affection.

So, if you see me coming and don't want a kiss, make sure your hand is out, because I'm a smacker (okay, maybe not with strangers because I like to know who lips are kissing - cos I mean sometimes it's just like whew!).

((hugs and kisses))

Dottie :)

Houston A.W. Knight said...

My dear Blodeuedd,

That very interesting...so in your belief system even sisterly hugs and a quick kiss are out of the question. So, how do you show your sister or brother you care?

See, I was raised that kisses and hugs are like love...there are different kinds of love. You feel one kind of love for your parents and another kind for your sisters and brothers...then you've got a special kind of love for a dear friend and another completely different kind of love for a husband - then there is the ultimate kind of love...the love a mother feels for her baby. So, hugs and quick smacks are way different than embraces and lingering kisses of romance. So I come from a belief system that says,
All of these Loves are different in degrees and how you express them. Each to their proper place and one NEVER steps over that line.

LOL ... I would think hugs in a cold country would be more than welcome...you stay warmer that way. LOL, no?

I'm just being silly with ya'! I understand what you're saying, and I find your view intersting. It is what makes this world a wonderful place to be...to hear how others are raised and what they believe...
Thanks for sharing, sweetie!

Hugs (Ooopps - maybe not) {;-) So is it alright to give ya' a cyber hug?

Hawk

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Cecile, Hi Hon!

Well it sounds like you had a family like mine...lots of hugs, I think that's important for children when they're growing up...kind of helps with all the other stuff that goes wrong in our parents lives that we didn't understand as kids....

I'm glad you enjoyed the wee look into my life and I thank you for sharing at peek at yours as well...
It's fun to see into other peoples worlds.

So here's a big cyber HUG for you my dear!

Oxox
Hawk

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Liza!

Hey there Sweeite! Good thing you're a hugger...can you feel my cyber hug on you? LOL

Being Irish - my family is spread out across the world...so when we get to see each other, it's got to be big hugs and kisses...

It's nice to see there are so many of us huggers and kissers out there!

O.K., Blodeuedd watch out! We hugger girls just might all head over your way to teach you the difference between family hugs and kisses and lover hugs and kisses.
;-)

How about it Liza...you want to go with me to Finland (?? Finland right Blodeuedd?) we'll find Blodeuedd and give her a friendly hug so she can see what she's been missing?

I'll be dropping by your blog soon!
Hugs
Hawk

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Sha, my little lefty...it's no wonder we're friends. My twin is a lefty and so is me hubby! It's no wonder I write with both hands.

Girl, you make me laugh - I believe it's the right hand you shake with....remember my blog about the left hand? In our historical past...the left hand was used to wipe your behind, so you'd never shake someones hand with that hand. Remember people did wash their hands or bathe much back then.
I can say I'm glad that has changed. LOL

Hugs
Hawk - babe, did I answer your last e? I'm sorry if I didn't...me back was bad but I'll try to catch up soon!
Hope all is o.k., for now where you're at. ????

Houston A.W. Knight said...

EH!!!

OMG, seems forever since you've visited! Well, big hugs go with this greeting...so I'm glad you're a hugger!

>>Glad you are up - if not about, at least you are up...<<<

THANK YOU HON!

>>>I was raised a lip smacker - quick smack, loads of hugs and not to be outdone - the arm loads of cuddles...<<<
I THINK THIS KIND OF AFFECTION KEEP A FAMILY CLOSE...LIKE CECILE SAID, IT NEVER STEPS OVER THAT LINE...IT NEVER BECOMES SEXUAL IN ANY WAY. IT'S NOT A ROMANTIC AFFECTION ITS A FAMILY CARING KIND OF AFFECTION.

>>>I ended up having boys and as you know once they reach a certain age, they know the look and they start dodging the lips from an early age... but I am crafty and I get my smacks in...by whatever means necessary.<<<
LOL...GOOD FOR YOU MOM!!!

>>>>That said - In the UK political correctness has gone mental - if I am on the bus and ever dare make an attempt at even trying to kiss my niece or nephew -I would not be allowed to pass the next police station.....<<<

WHAT?????? I'm shocked...you can't give a motherly kiss to your child? When it cries from skinning his knee you can't kiss it and make it better? This is way too crazy for me.

I kiss my dog for Pete's sake...well, not on the mouth (because he doesn't have one, really) but on his little head or over each eye. I hugs my dog too when he's frightened by a sound or someone. Will I go to jail for that in the UK as well?

>>>So over here - it's all air kissing or very private moments where you are guarded by who is looking and where you are...<<<
OMG, THIS IS SO SAD!

>>>But I do grow my kids up to know the joy of what a good smack can bring about -whether it's in peace or in war..... or moment of playfulness, my personal favourite..<<<
GOOD FOR YOU EH! IT WOULD BE SAD TO GROW UP WITHOUT AFFECTION IN THEIR LIFE.

HUGS
HAWK

Vicki said...

We kiss more on the cheek than anything else. I'm not even sure why, but that's just the way we always have done so.

Air kisses are usually more for meeting a bunch of girls at lunch and saying a quick hello that way. Again, not really sure why. They're not meant as anything more than hey, really glad you're here.

Your post are always so interesting and thought provoking. :) I love them.

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Treethyme,

Huggers! WooHoo!

Yes, the British seem to be more reserved in their affections, but I'm Irish I've got to hug you at least and whoever heard of going' to Ireland and not kissin' the Blarney Stone...the dang thing is too far to reach for just a wee hug.

So...through the years have ya' been able to warm that Britishman up some? Show him a wee little affection never hurt a soul?

Hawk

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Ah, me wee Dottie lass!

Now how did I know you'd be a hugger? Hummmmm, couldn't be anyone who loves Tinker Bell has to be a hugger and a kisser!

you said, My husbands family rarely talks....let alone touch each other

I HAVE FOUND PEOPLE RAISED IN NON-AFFECTIONATE FAMILIES TO BE VERY MUCH LIKE THIS BECAUSE WITHOUT AFFECTION HOW DO YOU ESTABLISH A CONNECTION OR ANY FORM OF TRUST?

HOW DO YOU TEACH A CHILD TO CARE ABOUT SOMEONE, OTHER THAN THEMSELVES, WITHOUT SHOWING THEM TRUE NON-SEXUAL AFFECTION AND HOW TO SHOW PROPER NON-SEXUAL AFFECTION TO SOMEONE ELSE?

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Houston A.W. Knight said...

HOW DOES ONE EXPRESS TRUE SYMPATHY FOR ANOTHER AND TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW TO SYMPATHIZE WITHOUT AFFECTION BEING INVOLVED?

you said, which I found so odd, he was affectionate with me, but not with his family. I think he relates it too heavily with sex.

INTERESTING. SO HE DOESN'T SEPARATE A HUG BETWEEN SISTERS OR BETWEEN A MOM AND DAUGHTER FROM THE ONES HE GIVES YOU?

DOES HE EVER JUST GIVE YOU A NON SEXUAL HUG?
LIKE JUST A FEW SECOND AGO ME HUBBY CAME IN AND TOLD ME HE WAS GOING OUT TO THE GARAGE TO FIX HIS CAR...HE PULLED ME OUT OF MY CHAIR and TOLD ME HE WAS HAPPY TO SEE ME UP AND ABOUT AND HUGGED ME. HE'D MISSED ME CRAZY ENERGY ABOUT THE HOUSE, AND AT THAT POINT HE BACKED AWAY, GAVE ME A QUICK PECK ON THE MOUTH AND OFF HE WENT. THE KISS NOR THE HUG WAS SEXUAL. BOTH WERE JUST TO TELL ME HE WAS HAPPY I WAS FEELING BETTER.
DO YOU GET THOSE KIND OF HUGS AND KISSES FROM YOUR HUBBY?

you said, As he has grown older, he really dislikes hugs,

OH NO! BUT I GUESS HE WOULD BECAUSE HE SEE THEM AS ONLY SEXUAL. IF HE'S LIKE MOST MEN IN THEIR LATER YEARS AND NOT THAT INTERESTED IN SEX ALL THAT MUCH. HE WOULD SHINE AWAY FROM ANYTHING HE SEES AS SEXUAL INTENT. FEARFUL A SIMPLE HUG WOULD MAKE YOU WANT TO GO DOWN A ROAD HE'S NOT WILLING TO GO DOWN SO OFTEN THESE DAYS.

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Houston A.W. Knight said...

OH SWEETIE, DON'T LET HIM GET BY WITH THIS. TELL HIM A WOMAN CAN LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT SEX BUT SHE'S GOT TO HAVE THE AFFECTION! AND THEY ARE NOT ONE IN THE SAME!!!

you said but I make him suffer through them anyway.

WOOHOOO! GOOD FOR YOU! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK - ONE DAY HE'LL COME TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE.

you said, he's infecting my children with the same behavior!
NO!!! DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN!!!

you said, I raised them to hug and kiss, but his influence is starting to take hold and they're starting to want to only hug! I demand a kiss from each of them, but I can tell it makes them uncomfortable.

OH NO! WELL, IF THEY'RE IN THEIR TEENS IT COULD ALSO BE THAT. ONCE THEY GROW ONLDER THEY'LL REMEMBER THE AFFECTION AND BRING IT BACK INTO THEIR LIVES. ANY MEMORIES THEY HAVE AS CHILDREN WILL ALWAYS BE OF YOU AND ALL YOUR MOTHERLY HUGS AND KISSES. BECAUSE OF THAT, THEY KNEW THEY WERE ALWAYS LOVED...AND THEY WILL PASS THIS ON TO THEIR CHILDREN, YOU'LL SEE.

you said, It makes me sad that his behavior is what they think is appropriate.

OH NO. BUT READ WHAT EH SAID ABOVE ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING IN THE UK. MAYBE FOR THEIR SAFETY IN THIS NEW WORLD OF TODAY, IT'S BETTER, BUT WHAT A SAD WORLD THIS WILL BECOME. AND I BELIEVE WHEN PEOPLE REPRESS HONEST AFFECTION THAT'S WHEN THINGS GO ODD IN THEIR MINDS AND THEY BECOME CONFUSED ABOUT THE LINES OF PROPER BEHAVIOR. THAT'S WHEN THEY BECOME MISGUIDED AND THINK A MOTHERLY HUG GIVING HER CHILD COMFORT OR COURAGE IS SEXUAL.SO SAD. THEIR MINDS BECOME messed up

you said, I want my kisses back.

I WANT PEOPLE'S MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER AND BACK TO LIVING GOOD, HONEST, AND HONORABLE LIVES.
WHAT HAPPENED? HOW DID IT ALL GET SO MESSED UP? WHY IS EVERYTHING REALATED TO SEX. WHERE DID OUR INNOCENCE GO?

you said, I think the world could use a few more kisses and I'm more than willing to give them away!

ME TOO...REMEMBER THE SONG "WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS NOW IS LOVE SWEET LOVE"

you said, It's not sexual for me, but true affection.

I AGREE...THERE IS A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX AND AFFECTION, IN SEX YOU CAN SHOW AFFECTION, BUT
YOU CAN HAVE AFFECTION WITHOUT SEX.

you said, So, if you see me coming and don't want a kiss, make sure your hand is out, because I'm a smacker
lol, WELL I'LL SMACK YOU RIGHT BACK!

you said, okay, maybe not with strangers because I like to know who lips are kissing - cos I mean sometimes it's just like whew!)

LOL, YES I HAVE TO BE INTORDUCED AND SEE YOU A COUPLE OF TIMES BEFORE I HUG OR KISS YOU, BUT IF AFTER THE FIRST MEETING I THINK I LIKE YOU, BY THE SECOND MEETIN' I'M HUGGING YOU.
NOW IN MY CASE WITH YOU, WE'VE TALKE SO MUCH ON THE BLOGS AND PRI. E THAT I FEEL I KNOW YOU, AND YOU ALREADY KNOW I ADORE YOU, DOT! SO IF WE EVER GET THE CHANCE TO MEET IN PERSON YOU'D BETTER BE READY FOR A SUPER BIG SISTERLY HUG AND A SMACK!

((hugs and kisses)) :-D right back at you! ((hugs and kisses))

Hawk

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Vicki,

Thank you for the nice complement about my blog articles. It makes me happy to know so many of you find me Irish chit chating interesting...

Hawk

Blodeuedd said...

Hi Hawk,
Cyber hugs are nice :)
I told my bf about the kissing thing, he thought I meant on the chin, and then he got surprised. That would sure not work here, not even among those who love to hug.

A kiss on the forehead or chin, that would be ok. But still weird since no one does it. People know you care even if you don't kiss and stuff. When I think about it, a lot of hand shaking here.

We save our hugs for when they are needed. People still know you care. I actually think there is too much hugging going on, it has lost it's meaning among some when they only do it cos they have seen it on tv. I want things to mean something.

Oh, are Finland going to get invaded my huggers now when I have said this, lol.

As for the cold climate, it takes a long time to get all those clothes off and then hug someone. And too cold to hug someone who has all her or his winter clothes on ;)
But nah, there are huggers out there here, of course, many, but as for the kissers. have never heard about that here

~Sia McKye~ said...

I'm a 'smacker' too. Most definitely a hugger as are all my sibs and yes, plan on being there for awhile during hi and goodbye. Even my brothers kiss each other with a big hug. It's normal.

Interesting thought about air kissing and lies. I agree. :-)

Now, with Jake, my son, it's always been three kisses--one for each cheek and one on the lips. I'm always hugging and kissing him. At 14 he's so grown up but still enjoys kisses--though he would deny it to anyone asking, lol! He claims my lips are like a magnet when it comes to his cheeck. We used to also have a ritual when we left each other, of giving a million kisses to fill you up until we saw each other again. Still happens, just not as often--now we use the phrase a million kisses...

Glad you're feeling better Sweetie!!!

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Blodeuedd!

YOU SAID: I actually think there is too much hugging going on, it has lost it's meaning among some when they only do it cos they have seen it on tv. I want things to mean something.

THIS IS A VERY GOOD POINT. HAS THE HUG LOST IT'S MEANING?
AGAIN I THINK IT FALLS BACK ON WHO IS GIVING IT AND IS THERE THE FEELING OF A TRUE HUG WITH IT'S DONE. I KNOW THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO "HUG" YOU BUT THEY DON'T REALLY, IT'S LIKE THE AIR KISS, THEY MAKE THE SOUND OF THE KISS AND APPLY THE PRESSURE WITH THEIR CHEEK AS IF THEY'VE KISSED YOU BUT

AND THE SAME GOES FOR THE HUG - YOU'VE GOT THOSE WHO COME UP TO YOU AND PUT THEIR ARMS AROUND YOU BUT YOU CAN'T FEEL THEM AND THEIR BODIES ARE SO BENT IN HALF IT'S AS IF THEY'RE AFRAID THE BODIES MIGHT TOUCH. A HUGGER IN THIS KIND OF SITUATION SHOULDN'T BE HUGGING BECAUSE THEY DON'T MEAN THE HUG. BETTER TO DO WITHOUT ONE THEN TO GIVE A FAKE ONE.

YOU SAID, Oh, are Finland going to get invaded my huggers now when I have said this, lol.

LOL, YES...I'M COMING OVER THERE TO HUG YOU! ;-) NO, NOT REALLY, I'M NOT THE TYPE TO IMPOSE MY BELIEFS ON ANYONE. IF I KNOW YOU DON'T LIKE HUGS, I WON'T GIVE THEM.

As for the cold climate, it takes a long time to get all those clothes off and then hug someone.
WHY DO YOU NEED TO TAKE CLOTHES OFF TO HUG?
I WAS BORN IN ALASKA, WE HUGGED WITH OUR COATS ON. IT WAS WAY TOO COLD TO TAKE THEM OFF.

GOOD! I'M GLAD YOU DON'T MIND THE CYBER HUGS...SO I'LL GIVE YOU THOSE MY DEAR FRIEND.

HUGS
HAWK

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Sia!

Yes, lies and air kisses...me father was a smart man, that's why he made sure my twin and I gave a quick peck in the "I'm sorry" so to be sure it was a real I'm sorry.

But that's an idea adults should use when fighting with a hubby to see if they really are forgiving you after an argument. If they won't let you kiss them...you've got more work to do before you can go to bed.
In my family you never went to bed angry either.

Oh I love the story about your son! Beautiful story!

And as far as your brother's kissing and hugging...to me that's normal in some families...it all boils down to INTENT when the act is done.
If your mind is honest and true and your intention with the hug is just that, a welcome hug, that's all that is passed on to the one being hugged.
Now if the intent is to molest or take the hug further to a sexual situation then the person being hugged will feel that intent.
To me it's like you can feel when a person is being fake around you or is being a true friend. It's all in the intent.

I think "intent" comes through even through cyber space...


Big hugs!
Hawk

P.S. And I thank each and every one of you for the well wishes for my back! xoxo

Blodeuedd said...

Precisely, the first time I met my bfs mum and she hugged me I really felt she meant it and it sure made me feel nice. Other hugs I have got have just felt fake, a hug for the sake of it.

Lol, as for the clothes, I guess i am thinking of cold days when you are all white in the hair and runny nose. A hug does feel nice without all that.

Well at least i hug my bf every single day, and love it. Anything else would just be weird not wouldn't it. Maybe he can make a hugger of me in the end

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Blodeuedd, sweetie, what are you still doing up?

Sadly, yes, their are those who are the fake hugs and kisses kind of people. It's sad. If they only knew the wonderful feeling of a true heart. But yes, if I had a choice of a fake hug or none at all...I'd go with none at all over a fake one.

Yahoo for the BF he'll make a hugger out of you yet! ;-) If he fails then I'm coming over there! So, be warned!

Hugs
Hawk