I ask this question because I've had my fair share of girlfriends who ask this questions. But it always follows that romance disappeared after they got married to them.
I'm not saying "sex" disappeared, well, for many I'm told it did declined somewhat, but the romance between them faded fast after they tied the knot...why?
It's sad to say, but some men (not all) are of the belief that once he's gotten the woman of his dreams married to him, he doesn't have to be bothered with the headaches of having to romance her anymore....She's now his WIFE....and a wife doesn't have to be romanced or flirted with.
Can you see my mouth on the floor right now? That's right...a man said this to me once....let me add here...this guy should be glad I wasn't his wife, because, had I been, and he'd said that in my earshot...I would have boxed his ears for him.
But what these men don't seem to understand is that if they want more from their wives than sex...if they want passion, lust, ecstasy and heat...he has to understand she still needs the romance.
There is a difference between sex and romance...both are wonderful by themselves, but what these men doen't realize is that to have that enamored, lusty feelings of wanton desires they felt when they first meet her...they have to keep sex and romance combined.
They sit around wondering why they can't recapture what it was that drew them to their wives in the first place, because it was the combo of sex and ROMANCE that made that amazing connection happen.
So I ask you....Where has all the PASSION gone? Why does it seems SOME (not all) men have forgotten the need women have for ROMANCE? It plays such an important roll in a woman's sex lives.
No romance...means...sex now and then. Romance combined with sex... means...often and hot!
With the large amount of romance books being sold today, shouldn't these guys get the hint that maybe, just maybe, women NEED romance in their lives?
Most women have a need for seduction, the desire for sensuously whispered words in her ear, the want of feeling the heat of his obsession; for her and only her.
The wanton thrill a woman feels when her man's strong arms slowly move around her waist to rakishly wrap her in his hold and press her against his hard, wet, naked body at an uexpected moment?
Why have some men forgotten a woman's sexuality starts in her mind. She needs Romance! She needs the setting of soft lighting (be it natures light or candles), flowers (or his aftershave) that give a sweet smell and the sight of her beautiful man's nakedness. She needs the taste of his desire for her on his lips.
Most women need a special place just for them the share. A secret rendezvous that he took the time to "dress up" with candles,
roses, wine, a favorite fruit or something sweet he made just for her?
It could be as simple as a touch, a kiss or a look meant only for her.
Maybe it's as easy as a spontaneous "afternoon" just for the two of you...
Or a surprise evening at a romantic spot he took you to once, when you first meet. And he brought you there as a reminder of his lust for you...it's amazing how such a reminder will bring on a woman's desires and renew the love she has for her man.
It doesn't take a lot to stir a woman's heart...just remembering she loves red or purple and having the sheets in that color can bring her around to that decadent and ertoic mind set that once so ruled over your relationship...
Passion is a key to Romance. The man needs to feel and show his passion for her. Make her know she's the ONLY one in his heart. The ONLY one he NEEDS. The ONLY one he WANTS, and the ONLY one he LOVES!
Why have some men forgotten the power of their touch on a woman's flesh? A woman wants and needs to know her man loves to touch her. Or a moment of tender words as he passes through the kitchen can give hubby a grand time later that night.
A simple trip down memory lane on a sunny afternoon when there's nothing to do will fill her heart with memories of why she fell in love with you. Taking the time to share memories with her will draw her like a bear to honey...and all those arousing night you had while on that vacation you've just reminisced about will be repeated again, and again, and again that night.
Why and when did (some) men forget the power they had to melt a woman and set her ablaze with a romantic seductive gaze with his eyes...shouldn't their mother's have told them that as men they had the ability to seduce a woman with a fevered stare?
A look that tells her he wants her and no other and he'll take her now!
Or a cocky smirk. Sometimes it's just the way a man tilts his head at her that can set a woman on ecstasy road...
A road she'll be more than happy to drag you down...
If men only knew women think about Love=(sex & romance) as much as they do.
They'd understand why simple things like a look, a flower, a bath surrounded with candles filled with an aluring scent, or whispered words of adore can bring his fantasy world to reality.
Sex for a woman starts in the mind and works it way through the five senses.
Women need romance first to get to the core of their passion...
Once the man has tapped that core of fire with his touch and gentle ways...that woman will entice him with a world of unbelievable passion and a desire for only him that will be forever.
For the guys out there who think they don't have to ROMANCE their wives...figure out why so many women are reading it? Sit back and remember how you once brought a sparkle to her eyes just by walking into the room...it's not because the relationship was new... it's because the relationship had romance.
When you kissed her you made her feel your desire. When you pulled her into your arms you made her know you weren't going to let go. When you whispered words in her ear, the words were words of seduction, not asking if she did the laundry.
When you pressed your body against hers... you made her know she was yours.
Romance doesn't always mean physical things...it can be a word, a look, a sound or a taste...it can be as easy as sharing an inner most thought...a thought she knows you'd share with no one else. Romance is a bond only you two share...knowing she is first in your life even if life gets too busy or in the way.
Memories of the passion and knowing she's in your thoughts from the romantic things you still do keeps love alive, hot, and steamy. Romance is the glue to an awesome life with your wife.
Don't forget the passion, desire and lust that comes with Romance.
Don't forget how easy romance was and how much it added that heat of spice to your relationship when you were dating...don't forget what your woman needs to feel loved, desired and sexy...and what do you get out of all this?