Think about it…what do you do when you get up? O.K., besides the obvious…SS&S…what do you do?
Do you turn on the radio? No? Why not? Is your mind already scheduling your day? Organizing what needs to be done first and all that follows….Are you going over and over in your head scenarios to disperse or avoid a confrontation you know will be facing you the minute you walk into the building, and how you want to deal with it professionally instead of blurting out what you really want to tell that B*tc…..person?
Negative thoughts can set a mode for a very long and bad day.
Or is your quiet morning one of breathing in the morning dew and sipping a cup of warm coffee or tea while enjoying the twitters of a morning Lark, the chirps of two Squirrels in love and the distant sounds of cars passing as you become one with nature before the actual work day begins?
Music is a good way to get a day going right and get your conversation over the breakfast table starting with “I Love you honey” with twinkling eyes and gentle smiles.
But if it's the wrong kind of music your day could begin with, “This day hasn’t begun and it’s already bad!” sour kind of expressions with no eye contact? So beware the type of music!
If you turn on the radio…is it a shock Jock or music? IT DOES MATTER WHAT YOU LISTEN TOO!
Short story…well o.k., maybe not so short, but here’s the Irish version of a short story. I have a girlfriend who has a hubby who enjoys the Shock Jocks, and she hate them…from what she tells me…it seems to have become a standard practice for “Shock Jocks” to talk abusively to and about women (fowl language and name calling). It would appear their (shock jocks) daily targets are to pick on and berate women and the womanhood…something that she quite frankly got quite tired of…
“…that’s all they scream about every morning!” She yelled at me.
“It’s like waking up to a nasty mean relative everyday that never has anything nice to say because he’s bitter over his wife leaving him!”
My only response was, “Why do you listen to the radio if it’s making you that unhappy?”
“I have no choice," she screamed. "My hubby puts it on every morning!”
She went on to confess…that she found when they listened to the Shock Jocks…her hubby’s day didn’t seem too affected by the way their day started - listening to all that negative talk and shouting and cussing and downright rudeness they heard.
But for her...she discovered she was getting more and more grumpy. She told me she was getting quicker to react in a negative fashion and seeing the bad things around her…the good just magically slipped away.
She found she was slowly building a deep resentment towards men in general. She admitted to becoming angry, and the longer she didn’t express that anger the more it built inside of her. Not a good way to start each day.
But as the months went on, she started to see little changes in the hubby that said he was hearing those Shock Jocks and their negative ways towards woman. She told me she saw it in the way he drove and reacted to other drivers…he’s shout about that foolish driver being a “blank, blank woman!” even when it was plain to see it was a man! But the woman was blamed.
She told me she saw other small changes in her hubby she didn’t like…he wasn’t the man she’d married. She cried about how her hubby was always thoughtful and caring….but of late he’d become more distant.
What was happening?
That’s when she decided to put the brakes on this Shock Jock ride. Negativity was sneaking into her life because of them! Their negative words had a subtle effect, but it was there. And she was letting these nasty mean and cruel Shock Jokes into her home every morning through a radio!
When her sweet request for hubby to find another station with nice music to listen to went ignored…she tried a new tactic…she became her own “shock Jock” and gave a loud, very loud voice to expression…in an angry, grumpy, and curt way (like a real Shock Jock!) she demanded they listen to something else! It worked.
She explained to her hubby how these guys screaming all this negative stuff at them every morning was affecting her as a woman, and how it affected their day together…at first he didn’t really believe her…he declare it was harmless…she asked him when nasty mean words become harmless.
He said it was a joke. So, being the quick wit that she was, she made a few mean nasty remarks in joking form about men…he didn’t find it funny.
Then she asked him how he would like to start everyday defending men. And how would he like to listen to woman berate men like these guys were doing to women every morning? He had to admit he wouldn’t.
Her point was made.
Now they listen to upbeat music first thing in the morning to get their day going and in a positive light. When they leave the house it’s with a smile on their faces and love in their hearts. She’d gotten her hubby back before it was too late!
So…if the radio is a way to start the day make sure it’s tuned to happy music. And if it’s the T.V. make sure it’s on a happy morning program.
What color did you pick to wear? Did you know red tends to make humans react in a feisty way? If it’s going to be a rough day ahead and you know it…pick a white or a softer color to wear that won’t make you the target of the fighting.
Cowboy boots, tennis shoes or 6” heels, and why? If its heels that make you feel happy and sexy…why did you pick out the flats on a day when you’re feeling like a wall-flower? Pick your mood! And for my male readers…If it’s those cowboy boots that give you more confidence…then why are you wearing those tennis shoes…get your boots on!
What’s the weather and how are you reacting to it? If it’s raining…choose to be different from all those complaining about the rain…enjoy the shower of the Gods – its full of negative Ions that are very good for you! ;-)
All these simple acts can set you up for a good or bad day. But like life…it’s your choice…you choose what your day will be in how you start your day. Don’t believe me…watch yourself for the next few days and see!
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