Friday, February 4, 2011

Are you a talker or an observer?

Before I answer this question I want to give you all a heads up! Angie Fox has just had her latest release! And she will be doing a give-away for a free book here on my blog on March don't forget to show up that day...the winner will be picked that evening to win a free signed copy of

Now to answer the question

I’ve never been one for a lot of idle conversation. I’m not a phone person and I’m not a girl who needs her “girl days” … because of this...I’ve been accused of being secretive, but I think there is a big difference in being secretive and quiet.

To me secretive means someone who withholds vital information from others. I don’t. If you have a critical need to know something…I’d be the first to tell you. But I’m not of the ego to believe everything about my life is so important that I’d bore you with every minute detail of it within the first few minutes of meeting you.

When you’re talking…you can’t be listening or learning.

I learned very young that “Silence Was Golden”…in being quiet one learns a lot about people and life around them. The power of observation leads the mind to greater places and allows room for acceptance, patience, and understanding...even if you don’t agree with an action done.

Most talker’s mistake a quiet person for being stupid and unfeeling…if they took a moment…they’d see that is so far from reality or the truth of the matter. In fact those who observe life tend to be closer and feel the depth of our reality more than those who chat up a storm never silent long enough to know life goes deeper than their ever continuous wagging tongues and surface beliefs.

In silence you will find wisdom.

Those who don’t write might not understand a writer’s head. A true Writers tends to observe a lot and to observe one has to BE QUIET. In that solitude of observation is where writers find inspiration and creativity. It is there, in the silence of the mind that one finds the core of all beliefs and where a writer finds the words to touch this seed of truth within the pages of her book to reach the reader’s emotions.

A talker will never find the twin side of our reality…the wonderful worlds in which a writer journeys…worlds of mermaids, cowboys, and fay. They’ll never find that sexy pirate or discover why history forgot him. They’ll never know the joy in discovering why this ghost of history picked you to tell his story through, and as payment for this kind deed, reveals where his hidden treasure’s buried.


There is magic in wisdom….and wisdom in silence.



~Sia McKye~ said...

Hawk, I'm observer. That's not to say I don't talk. I can be very social when the situation calls for it or if I'm in that mood.

All my life, quiet time has been a must. It soothes me, invigorates and refreshes me. I need it. I've learned so much by watching. Heard a lot too, by simply being quiet and watching. People tend to forget you're there when your quiet and it's surprising what you'll hear or see.

Good article. :-)

Btw, I can never forget my cyber Celtic friend. Sometimes there are days when I come here I have nothing to add to the topic at hand, but I love your personal posts. :-)

Houston A.W. Knight said...


You and I seem very much alike...we talk when called for and listen the rest of the time.

Like you I need my quiet time...

Thank you dear friend for your comments and for your understanding when I don't always make the rounds like I should...just know you're always in me thoughts and I will make it by as often as possible! I love your place and your you know I won't miss it often.

Big hugs

Blodeuedd said...

I am an observer I think. And I do feel that many just think I am shy cos of it.

Well truth be told, I will rather spend some time in my own head thinking of stories ;)

Houston A.W. Knight said...

Hey Sweetie,

It's funny but I think most readers and writers are people of have to be to enjoy either activity.

Are you writing any of those stories in your head?

Big Hugs

A man called Valance said...

'There is magic in wisdom….and wisdom in silence.'

Yup. In four hundred words, you said it.


Houston A.W. Knight said...

Valance...400 words??? Tell me Cowboy, how many days did it take you to count me words?


A man called Valance said...

Ninety seconds, that's all. About the same time it takes you to spout four hundred words. And I should know, I've had plenty of listening practice. Course that's when you're in a relaxed mood. The words per minute ratio increases drastically when you get your Irish up.

A man called Valance said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Houston A.W. Knight said...

LOL, Cowboy...LOL!


A man called Valance said...

One more thing - after that a heavily loaded presentation, I'll be surprised if anyone owns up to being a talker.

Laurie said...

I thought this post was good to read. You made some very perceptive points. It made me want to strive to listen better. I am not usually much of a talker as I tend to really enjoy quiet time but in some situations I recognize I just bide my time for a lull in order to get my 2 cents worth stated....perhaps I should have been listening and absorbing rather than preparing to react.

Houston A.W. Knight said...


Welcome to my home here in blogsville...

I think we all tend to "bide time" to get in our 2 cents (usually when there's an argument going on)...and I agree, that's when we should be listening most...

Thanks for coming by and I hope you'll be back for many more visits...we have an mixed mutt thing going on here so you're sure to find something to entertain you!

Hugs and welcome!